Book Excerpts from
Little Pocket of Confidence – The 10 Golden Steps
Author – Raj Soren


Ch. 1 CONFIDENCE: C for COURAGE 

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” . . . You must do the thing you think you cannot do.

Eleanor Roosevelt

Lion and the hyena 

First let me tell you a story which is set in the continent of Africa about courage.

It was another hot day on the plains of the African savannah. The wilder beast grazed in their thousands interspersed with Zebra, antelope and gazelles.  A line of elephants took their turn at the watering hole, with the bull elephants taking large trunks full of water, and spraying their backs to cool themselves from the scorching sun. 

Close by, there were two figures hidden under the shadow of a large tree overlooking this spectacle. One of them was a tall elderly tribesman, who was a grandfather and his name was Jabari and he was sitting with his grandson Diallo.  The grandfather was the Chief of the local tribe. He was out with his grandson and was mesmerizing him with his stories of the hunts that he used to go on when he was a younger man. Diallo listened tentatively so he could learn from his grandfather’s wisdom.  

So why am I telling you this story? I believe that we can all learn and remember far better from listening to stories, so you will find several stories featuring in this book.

Getting back to the story; well the grandfather’s name Jabari means Fearless or valiant and the grandson’s Diallo means brave one which is very apt for these characters.

Jabari and Diallo noticed a lion and a hyena were also roaming the plains. The grandfather spoke in a calm and soothing voice and told his grandson. 

“The Lion is a brave and courageous beast and the hyena is cunning” 

“The hyena is also a strong beast that can cause problems for the lion, and to man, since hyenas are very strong when they hunt in large packs” 

Diallo asked his grandfather “Who would win in a fight if the hyena was to fight the lion?”  

The grandfather replied,

“The one that would win is the one who is the stronger in heart, body and mind.”

Diallo replied, “Would that mean that the lion would always win? “

Grandfather responds,

“A large, fit, lion would always win a fight against one hyena, however, this same lion would lose if, for one brief second, he doubted his own strength and abilities then he would be overcome and be weakened by the crackling sounds of the hyena and its evil stare”

When Hyenas hunt in large packs even a brave lion is no match for them. 

The grandfather said “in our hearts, we are all lions but, when people laugh and mock us, we become timid and scared; and our brave and courageous hearts can be changed to that of a young deer so we are soon overcome by the hyenas of this world”

Hyenas can almost be thought of as people that laugh at what you do and what you are trying to achieve in life. The sound of laughing and cackling hyenas might even represent the negative people in your life who may say things like “why do you want to go to college?”, “what do you want to move out of the city for?”, “why do want to move jobs?”, “why do you want to change the way you work?” Many people get into a comfort zone and don’t like others changing the status quo. 

I have shared this story to help illustrate the point that human nature can sometimes be close to that of the animal kingdom. When we are seeking to be confident in our daily lives, we sometimes face internal fears that we allow becoming barriers to achieving certain things in life, like presenting in public, going for a promotion at work, or dealing with seemingly difficult people. There are also several external factors that we must deal with in order to fulfil our goals in life; like the way, we react to other people and difficult circumstances, such as losing a job or having problems in business.

These problems and fears that face us on a day to day basis are like the laughing hyenas. Imagine for a moment that these hyenas represent negative thoughts. Negative thoughts are like hyenas in that they hunt and attack in large packs in the recesses of your mind and they can soon overwhelm you, causing you to lose your confidence and doubt yourself. In our heart’s and mind’s we can have two beasts; one that represents our poor self-image, and the other that represents a confident and more reassuring one. The Lion can represent the positive strong and brave beast, and the Hyena can represent the negative and evil that undermines our abilities and thoughts. 

If we feed the Lion with positive thoughts and self-belief, then we too become stronger to face more challenges.  The hyena becomes stronger if we allow it to dominate our lives thus allowing it to grow in negative thought and influence.

So how can you overcome and manage these negative thoughts and keep even these ‘hyenas’ at bay? 

The story of the Lion King is one of Disney’s more popular films which illustrates this idea of Hyena versus Lion. The lion from the famous story of The Wizard of Oz was searching for courage, however, courage was always in his heart and he did not need to search for it.

One way to kill the hyenas is to starve them of negative thoughts and drown them with positivity, self-belief, and positive affirmative actions. No longer will the packs of hyenas roam your thoughts and they will die, or seek other plains, in weaker minds. I will cover positive affirmations later in this book and how to reframe negative thoughts.

In some people’s minds negative thoughts may develop as a result of external factors that happen around them at work, in their business, or within their home life, or perhaps something deep-seated has festered for some time as a result of a traumatic experience.  There may be someone close to you, such as a work colleague or possibly a friend, or members of your own family that are causing negative influence. It’s most likely it’s in their nature to do so and they have been acting this way for some time. You may have even wanted to do something different with your life and these people try to stop you achieving what you want.  They are like anchors holding you back from sailing the seas of adventure or even the chains holding you back from flying to dizzy heights of success.  These could well be the same people that sap away at your energy.


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Book Excerpts from
Little Pocket of Confidence – The 10 Golden Steps
Author – Raj Soren


I have written this book “Little Pocket of Confidence – Ten Golden Steps” just for you after considerable thought and research. I have put together tried and tested methods to help you increase your confidence and self-esteem. The book is designed to help you in your journey to greater self-confidence and more fulfilling life. If you are already super confident then that’s great maybe you can pick some useful tips to help and support others less confident than yourself.  

This information will give you a step by step approach of how to look and feel more confident in many aspects of your life whether it is in a job interview, managing and leading people, speaking in public or making new friends or even being a better parent.